When it comes to dating, two things are absolutely critical to the health and longevity of any relationship. No. Not good sex & conversation, you freak. What I'm talking about will help to determine whether or not you and your potential suitor even make it to the stage of having a "relationship." These two things being: Standards & Requirements.
Sounds simple enough, huh? Everyone has standards...no?
Well...if you're one of those that needs to reassess what is important for you to consider when being courted (or courting) someone new, have a look at the list of questions below to see if there might be some qualifications that need be added to your list.
Sounds simple enough, huh? Everyone has standards...no?
Well...if you're one of those that needs to reassess what is important for you to consider when being courted (or courting) someone new, have a look at the list of questions below to see if there might be some qualifications that need be added to your list.
1. What are your short term goals?
2. What are your long term goals?
3. What is your relationship with your mother like?
4. What do you think of me?
5. How do you feel about me?
Please note that these questions were designed for women to ask men, as a way to weed out those whom are worthy of quality time rather than time wasters. However, they apply to women, as well. Follow the jump for reasons as to why these are 5 things you should know about your potential love partner. Yes...before you hit the sheets!
1. What are your short term goals?
Because anyone you're dealing with needs to have a futuristic vision and envision themselves doing something better. Short term: ranging from 6 months to a year from now.
2. What are your long term goals?
This goes back to the futuristic vision that was referenced in the first question. Again, this person needs to want more for themselves and have goals, hopes, and dreams that they are pushing towards. Complacency and stagnancy is a major turn-off and should could clue you in to the fact that this person doesn't have many hopes for his or her self. Bottom line is this: Your potential love partner can't want to be doing the same thing ten years from now that they're doing now. Please note that this encompasses all of areas life; not just limited to what a person is doing career wise.
3. What is your relationship with your mother like?
Ladies, this is especially important for you to know. How a man treats and regards his mother is indicative of how we will care for and treat you. After all...this is his mother that we're talking about. Consider that a boy's interaction with his mother is the first kind of relationship he will have with a person of the opposite sex. If he has no regard for her because she was a drug addict, career criminal, abandoned him, whatever...any major issues with mommy are clear indicators that you need to move on! At this point in his life, he's set in his ways and his lack of value/respect for women. Understand that it's not your job to raise a man that is supposed to be your partner.
Fellas, I guess the same could be said about a woman with daddy issues. If she was raised to think that all men are scum of the earth, cheating and conniving scum bags, then maybe you should let someone else deal with all of that baggage because it will prove to be difficult; erasing years of bad programming, that is.
This question should also segue way into what kind of relationship this person has with God, the Creator, a Higher Power, whomever you choose to praise and/or acknowledge as being more powerful than you. This isn't to say that Christians and Jews could never have successful relationships; because they can. But in as much as spirituality, you and the potential partner need to meet on some common ground where one can respect and accept the other's views and beliefs.
4. What do you think of me?
No, really....what do you think of me? Do you think that I'm witty? Funny? Intelligent? Sexy? What exactly do you think of me?
5. How do you feel about me?
This question is of the utmost importance because the response absolutely cannot be the same one that your potential partner gave you to question #4. The same answer means that the person isn't really thinking about or considering you. How a person thinks of you and how they feel about you are two totally separate things. Get it? Here's an example: I think that my best friend is a total slut bucket with low self esteem but I love and care for her deeply because I know that she has a beautiful heart and is fiercely loyal.
If the potential partner answers questions 4 and 5 the same....please, keep it moving! (although, i'll admit that sometimes...guys need a lil' hand-holding with these two questions. The subtle differences don't stand out as much to them.)
These are 5 things you need to know before you consider a serious relationship or romp in the hay with a partner. And if the partner gives unsatisfactory answers to any of the above....chuck the deuces and roll out. Maybe you two could be platonic friends but definitely not lovers...why should you lower your standards and settle for a partner that is unequally yoked? You wouldn't want to be with someone that just settled on being with you, now would you?
I didn't think so....and good luck♥
